Greetings friends, lovers, and those who still can’t believe Chipotle guac is $2.85
Today I included something a little different at the end, but here’s what we got for you:
A new way my partner and I have started going on dates that we should have done a long time ago
Some questions for long-term relationships to go along with this week’s date kit
A few posts I thought were funny
This can’t just be me who does this.
In my Notes app, I have a long list of restaurants, activities, and things my partner and I want to do. One by one, we put check marks next to the activities we’ve completed.
But there would come long periods when we completely forget about the list. We get too busy, too tired after work, or it’s too expensive this new restaurant 45 mins away. And on the weekends, we would rather stay in and have a lazy day.
Let me be very clear. These are the very things we love about having a partner.
Being able to wear your pj’s, wear no makeup, and have a lazy day with the person you love is one of the best parts of a relationship.
However, the thing that makes the relationship exciting is trying new experiences together.
At the beginning of our relationship, we went on new experiences together almost every week. Morning hikes, trying a new boba spot, visiting new food places, or planning nice dates. It didn’t matter what it was.
This is when we had the most fun together. It might have been the infatuation of each other, but still fun nonetheless.
Shortly we formed a list of things we wanted to do together.
Slowly marking things off as we did them but after a while, we forgot about it.
Started getting busy so we started staying in a lot more. Watching movies at home, walking around the block, and whenever we felt extra bougie, we got Chick-fil-a.
We would still go on dates every now and then but stopped being intentional with the dates we went on.
But recently we started something that changed the game for us…
My partner was the one who first mentioned that we don’t go on dates that much anymore.
So when I started to think about the reason why we stopped, I thought of a few things. Either because I felt we already knew each other so well. And I didn't think trying new things was necessary for us to be happy.
I still don’t think we need to try new things to be happy.
Even though we didn’t need to go on extravagant dates together, the memories we liked to look back on the most were the unique experiences we had together good or bad.
One experience I will always remember was on my birthday. This was the first birthday we ever celebrated together. So she wanted to make it special.
I had been saying that I needed some new shirts. We did multiple things that day, but I want to highlight when she took me to San Francisco. She was super excited and planned to take me to a street in SF that has famous thrift stores. I had never been there before. She gave me a $150 budget and I was gonna go hog wild!
We went up and down the isles, and went through every rack, but I didn’t find anything I liked.
I usually don’t like the vintage streetwear look, so I didn’t end up getting anything. But I still had fun being with her.
She was pretty bummed I didn’t get anything, but I recommended this outdoor shopping center that had stores I really like.
And there, we had a lot of fun. We went to ZARA and she got to live her dream of turning me into a “ZARA man” (whatever that means). And we both got to have fun. I got some nice clothes and she got to dress me up.
And we were able to turn the initial idea she had and turned it into something we’re both gonna remember for a long time
And I was more impressed with her for being thoughtful and putting something together for me, than the date itself.
And I’m sure a lot of you can relate to that whenever we experience something great with our partner. Experiencing it with them is what made it special.
This Week’s Date
The thing we started doing was something I like to call, Date Roulette.
Here are 2 ways we like to do it:
Option 1: This is for busy couples who don’t have a lot of spare time throughout the week
Block 4 days out of the month to go on a date mini-dates/budget-friendly dates
Every weekend, every Wednesday, etc.
Brainstorm and write 10-20 date activities on small pieces of paper
The dates don't have to be crazy, but make sure they're things you would both enjoy doing or have always wanted to try.
Go on walks and talk for 30 minutes, see who can cook the best omelet, and read a chapter of a book together, build a fort.
Fold the pieces in half and put the individual pieces of paper in a hat or bowl
So the activity can't be seen
Then before each date draw an activity out of the bowl
So each date will be a surprise
Go on your date!
Answer the Questions
Option 2:
Block Out 1-2 Days in the month for your date
Every other weekend, on your days off together, etc.
Brainstorm and write 10-20 date activities in your Notes app that take up all day.
go-carting, paintballing, beach day, painting lessons, cooking lessons, a new restaurant for dinner, etc.
Put all of your options into this Spinner wheel website to choose dates randomly
This is for people who like it on their phones. Click here
Spin the wheel to select your activity
So each date will be a surprise
Go on your date!
Answer the Question
HAVE YOU ASKED YOUR PARTNER THESE QUESTIONS YET?
What are some of the most memorable experiences you've shared together, and how have they strengthened your bond?
In what ways have your individual goals and dreams evolved since the beginning of your relationship, and how do you see them aligned in the future?
How have you both grown as individuals during this time together and how has this personal growth impacted your relationship positively?
What are some challenges you've faced as a couple, and what strategies have you used to overcome them and maintain a strong partnership?
As you reflect on your relationship what are some valuable lessons you've learned about love, communication, and building a lasting connection?
Here are some posts I thought were funny
A game I need to play with my partner😂
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